So I finally got smart, and stopped pushing, stopped judging, and started loving her like 1 Corinthians: 13. It made an immediate difference, but it took several years before her heart changed enough to give our M another shot.
Funny enough, a few weeks after the bomb, I bought a simple silver ring that I wear to this day that quotes 1 Cor 13 - Faith, Love, Hope (and Charity). Added to that a tatoo of the chinese symbols for Faith, PATIENCE, Love.
This part is right on. When we can love our spouses - as broken and confused (or NOT) as they are - but really love them unconditionally and let them go, it can do amazing things to the R - and US. My sitch was the same - we started to build this great "friendship" and she started wanting more of it. That, coupled with GAL'g and working on how to make myself more attractive to her - and being a man about it was the magic combination of elements that stopped our D.
And knowing when to council and when to not as COG says below can be a big deal. To stop suffocating and to just be.
Thanks again Frank for posting your 6 observations. And, yeah, I'm wild eye'd friggin' crazy....what you got?
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
