Hey brother in one of your post above you hit the nail on the head about DBing.
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What I want is to be happy. That's what I want.....
Dbing is not all about saving your M. Saving your M is an out come of saving yourself and becomming happy again. That is when the WAS has to make a choice and see which path THEY want to take. IMHO, DBing is a way to stall a D while you get your life back on track and prove to your WAS that you ARE the best option for them. Durring the proces you make yourself whole again to where your happiness is not found in CODEPENDENCE. Hope that makes sense.
Of course that is just my 2 cents and now I am going to bump it up to 4 cents.
Sol, I have been around your sitch for a long time now and I am going to say something that no one has said to you in a while.
YOU are still codependent on you W for you happines. You are still in now shape to make that desc yet. Yes you are on the fence for filing. However, IMHO filing is not going to solve your issues. YOU still want your family and YOU still love your W.
I hope you understand the point that I am getting at here. My point is that you still have to find happiness with in yourself before you can truely move on or forward.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
