New here from MLC board - Need Advice

[peaceful_spirit]

Cat,
He doesn't necessarily have those traits. What i've observed is as follows:

- is easily bored and needs to find some rush of excitement, like gambling
- has a very addictive personality- hard time controlling impulses
- as for mood changes, that wasn't really an issue until this whole A/MLC thing started. It would be like one minute he was here, the next his mind was somewhere else. He became very moody and unpredictible.
- Has hard time focusing
- is forgetful sometimes of conversations we have, but when it comes to things about work or sports, he's not forgetful at all.
- fears confrontation

Really, the big thing that I am noticing is that he has this need to do certain things, like gamble or OW. He seems unable to deny himself of these things. Then he'll lie to cover it up. Then he'll have these moments of realization that he doesn't want to lie and doesn't want to be with OW and he tries. But seems unable to follow through.

I have seen progress. I do think he's breaking away from the addiction of OW, but it was very, very hard. He would be here and be thinking of her. Then he'd go to her and realize within minutes that he didn't want to be there. But he would admit that he felt a pull towards her and wished he didn't.

I know this sounds like rambilng. It's just that I am discovering that my H is a very complex man, and i used to thing he was the simplest man I knew. He seems to have many layers to the problems he has, but they are so far burried.

I think I just need to see if he'll get tested for mood disorder or ADD. There just has to be something more there. He does not behave like a normal adult should.

But deep inside, i know he's a good person. He's a sensitive person who has a lot of love in his heart. He has some faith in God, but that has been burried as well.

this is so hard.