Who knows, you may tell me this is completely normal, and it's all this gambit and that counter-gambit.
I think not only myself, NOP and many, many others will tell you "this is normal" because IT IS!!!
I would say the vast majority of wayward spouses deny and lie, over and over again.
My H lied so many times I can't count them all. All straight to my face even when I had absolute proof. Told me the first time, second time, third time it was over, - you get the picture?
Heck we were even going for counselling and all the time he was acting (because that's what it was) as though he was working on our R, just to find out he was still seeing her (and she lives a 3-hour drive from here - one way!!) He would go with me to the C on a Friday and go to see her on Monday (his day off) - nice huh? GEL's H was going with her to C for 2 whole years - pretending he was working on things!! Swallow that!
Choc if you are going to get through this you are going to have to be prepared for many, many set backs. Even if your wife has agreed to counselling and the like, she is not in her right state of mind and you have to accept that. You are dealing with something you have never dealt with in the past so be prepared for a whole heck of a lot of surprises (and not nice ones)
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
