Man o' Steel

[RedHeadWife]

I understand your thoughts -- I've asked myself so many times what happened to my SELF RESPECT, but I don't think that's really the bottom line. IMHO, the bottom line is "can I forgive" and "do I still love this person." Yes, you still love your W and yes, from what I've read, you want your M to work out. It's hard, but you CAN get past the lying, etc. It takes a lot of time and a lot of self preservation though. ONLY YOU can decide if you want to get past it. Don't try to decide right now if you CAN get past it, that will come later.

And slow down on the "I'm the one living in the sex-starved M," feeling sorry for Choc stuff. Sit down and think about what made you decide to send that first email to Mrs. Choc and what made you decide to finally take a stand and work on things. YOU KNEW THEN that she may be having an A and yet you still wanted to see if you could get the ball rolling in the right direction.

Again, don't put words in her mouth as far as MC and her just releiving her guilt, etc. You guys have a long road ahead of you and you need to stay positive or it's gonna go down the drain before you even get started.