...this does not seem sustainable 24/7. I think you can have periods of this but not all the time. It also diminishes every other thing in your W's life because she IS a wife and mother. Why did you marry and have kids with her if you don't want her to be a wife and mother??
I just got sad when I read this because you are missing out on so much by not appreciating your W as a WHOLE person. It kind of seems like you are looking for the porn star fantasy woman. Much like many women are looking for the knight in shining armor.
I agree bear. I was reading this thread, and while everyone has their own needs, seeing the WA SG mentioned and cemars statement that a marriage is for desire... man I couldnt disagree more. Marriage has never been about desire. Its nowhere in the tenants of marriage.
desire is a will-o-the-wisp. Chasing after that will just have you lost and alone in the swamp. What I find unfortunate is that cemars expectation was that marriage was about desire. How unfortunate for him and his W.
