Originally Posted By: cemar2
Southergirl:

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He is thinking about leaving an otherwise excellent marriage, including his kids, to finally be "desired".
How can you have an excellant marriage without feeling desired by your spouse? Why should HE be satisfied with his marriage when he nevers wins her desire? What exactly would be the purpose of that marriage?


I didn't say that. I said otherwise excellent. No where did I say he should be anything, satisfied, or not. And I'm sure there are people who can have a completely excellent marriage without that kind of physical desire. Just not you, or the other poster.

Which is why I am at a loss for words.

Your best hope is that she's not really LD, but will, in the words of Schnarch, want sex when it's worth having. If she's really physiologically LD, cemar, then I refer you to my post to LFL on the same subject. You lost your perfect throw, and no matter if you go, or stay, you'll have to live with it.

If, after deciding to weigh those options, you decide that the need for "desire" trumps all else, by all means ... leave.