BF and all, I'm feeling Heather knows she needs to set the boundaries, but is still SCARED to do this b/c she is SCARED of the unknown, of the "what if it ends," of actually setting those boundaries b/c she isn't truly ready to let go yet.

Heather, I could be wrong here, but I think I've been there and know exactly how you are feeling IF this is how you are feeling.

We have to somehow get to the point where we realize OUR SELF WORTH and that it isn't based on how THEY feel about us or based on our M, but that's not easy. I'm not sure how to get there yet either.

How do we get back to that feisty, don't F w/ me person we were before we married H? How do we get back to that person we were who was happy w/ ourself and could take 'em or leave 'em, but now we are so dependent on the STABILITY we HAD in our M. Lots goes into this --

HEATHER, sweetie, I could be totally putting words in your mouth/emotions in your heart, but this is what I'm sensing as I'm feeling it too, babe.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10