Oh my goodness, he's gone back to how he was before, hasn't he?
Chris is right ~ it sounds like his trying to convince *himself* that he's happy. Remember how he did that before? But he wasn't really happy.
Read RCR's advice carefully; she is really good. I have also noticed that if say something that makes H angry, but it's true, he will usually take it on board w/in the next few days.
I think that there are a few things going on here with his anger and your reaction to it:
1 - Things are not as great as he says and/or he is feeling guilty, so he's taking it out on you
2 - No one else will put up w/ this, certainly not ow, so he calls you.
3 - You love him and keep hoping that he'll say something nice or that he'll love you again (probably does, anyway), so you answer the phone.
4 - Even when he spews, you stay on the phone to (a) hear an apology maybe (b) retain some sort of connection with him.
5 - He is either purposely making it difficult for you to "let" him see the boys in order to make you look bad in his mind (poor me) OR b/c he is just really in his own little, selfish world.
Sugar, you've got to get out of this pattern with him. He's done this before. He is NOT going to say anything nice right now. If he calls and starts to spew, please just to as someone else suggested - "I will not listen to this. Call me back when you can be pleasant" and hang up.
You can do this, Lisa. You've done it before. You will all be fine, you know that.
My H was getting closer to me when he met his new ow. I think maybe they get scared and that's why they find someone else. It's not YOU, honey.
Love, Nicola
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