Unfortunately NOP's is right, cheaters lie...it's part of infidelity, whether it's EA/PA. It's very rare that a cheater will come right out and be honest when asked questions, or even when they are confronted...very rare. They live in what's called the "fog" where they rewrite marital history, justify their actions, and often allow other people to influence their decisions (OM).
I cannot tell you how many times I asked my H to be honest with me, how many opportunities I gave him to come clean....and he lied to my face every single time until I confronted him with irrefutable proof. To be honest, I think for me the fact that he would so blatantly lie to my face was one of the hardest things for me to get past.
