I expected this, and had warned you, but you had to find out for yourself. That's just the way it works. Guys have a much harder time with the information in general than the ladies.
So. She is a cheater and all cheaters lie. You just learned that first hand. Next hard subject to broach. It is extremely likely that she has been physical with this guy.
Now you know. Big deal. It isn't the end of the world.
Next issue. You are going to have to handle this in stride, and NOT CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE OR CHANGE THE JACKET. The stakes are still the same as when you started.
Don't confront her or him yet. Let me help with that. There is a right way to do it, and the wrong way will do more damage than good.
Don't expect her to be honest with you. It won't happen for a while yet, and even then, it is going to take time for your trust to return.
Keep doing what we have talked about. Don't let this thing get control of your brain. It is simply a problem to be worked. No more, no less. Disconnect from it. That IS important.
I will be out most of the day Friday. I will be back late afternoon and I am available as well in email dufellow2003@yahoo.com
Stop worrying about how to work this with her lying all through it. It is doable.
Hang in there and do nothing drastic in the mean time.
Do invite your wife out for diner and a movie over the weekend. If she decides to go out "with the girls", then try to find something for the whole family to do together instead.
Family time just became your biggest weapon. Use it. Find stuff to do. Do stuff often.
Hang in there hero, the fire is just warming up.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
