Piecing - H still contacts OW

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Thank you for all your inputs. oldtimer, it is good to see your short but to the point opinion. It does clear things up in my mind. I need to figure out what my boundaries are and what action to take if he cannot live within the boundary. At this point, I am leaning towards tolerating it until our family leaves together. My h IS a good man (as most of your S are) and I am sure he is feeling tremendously guilty about dumping OW. Except for the part of continual contact with OW (via phone/online) which he only does at work, I feel he is trying very hard to make me happy. He is trying to remember every little thing I say (e.g. I mentioned a restaurant that I wanted to go but it was fully booked when I went with a friend. The next day he took me there for lunch).

I am mostly positive except for my occasional explosion/crying session. We both are pretending (at times at least) to be happy but that is working and I feel we are getting happier together. But it is slow. I had a "talk" with h the other day and he said I need to take it slow. I take it as I am pushing too much? I am going to reread DB book and not let myself push so much, if at all. CL, you are right I need to cultivate more positive experience, rather than negative ones.