New data. My wife called OM this evening, and talked for 40 minutes. They exchanged over a dozen text messages today, including him trying to buck her up to "be bold" and to "be honest" with me at our lunch today. Her responses were "I can't" and "It's hard when it will hurt someone", etc.
NOP, she looked me right in the eye and LIED to me today when I asked her if she had feelings for this guy. I even MENTIONED HIM BY NAME. She looked right at me and denied it.
This task ahead of me is going to be hard enough if she's completely HONEST with me; how can I possibly do it if she's going to lie???
I think it's time to confront -- her AND him.. I will wait for the weekend, after my D18's graduation, so as not to upset the family unit on her special day. I could use some advice as to how to play this, as what we have is a VERY eager OM, a reluctant (but still cooperating) MILF, who is flat-out lying to her husband about the EA.
I've gotta tell you, it's taking everything in my being to not just tell her I'm done. I will fight at this for two years, if that's what it takes, if she joins me in the fight and if she's honest with me. But this just frosts my ass, and I can't tolerate it. I will have NO CREDIBILITY with her if I do!
I only asked he for ONE thing today. I didn't ask her if she still loved me, I didn't ask her to please stay with me, I didn't ask her for any sort of commitments other than the MC.
I asked her to be honest. And she couldn't do it.
Who knows, you may tell me this is completely normal, and it's all this gambit and that counter-gambit. Right now, I gotta tell you, that's awfully hard to see.
