growing and healing

[SuperDad]

Frank, et al.,
If you don't mind, I am hoping for advice on applying no. 6 to my sitch.
My WAW is still living with me, but in separate rooms. She is not having a PA, but maybe a long distance EA. She is nice to me and we do things together as a family, as a couple with friends, and very occationally just the two of us. But, and it's a big but, she is absolutely resolute in her feeling that she wants out of the R in order to be free to pursue new Rs and that this is the key to her happiness. She won't go to a C since "they will just try to change her mind".

Is this idea of "being her counselor" applicable to this sitch? I have been just trying to give her space and detach under the philosophy that this will let her see that I am not the source of her unhappiness. Seems to work on some levels, but not to the point that she has softened her position. I am willing to give it more time (even a lot more), but am also willing to experiment if there is a shot that something else could work better.

Thanks, SD