i am trying my best to do that and i agree with everything you said. i hope you are right that it will end but i don't know. neither one of them has gotten a d yet but they are already living together and talking about getting married after the divorces are final. i am just going nuts with my h wanting our m to be over but still wants us to be best friends.
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
Lost, I know you are tired of hearing this but this is my perspective on your sitch. Your H and the OW will not last. It won't... Unless your H is unbelievable shallow there is no way that a 19 year old can keep his interest for very long while being with her full-time. He will get bored...actually annoyed really quick. Heck I am only 29 and cringe at the thought of dating a 19 year old. At 19 she is still forming who she is and who she wants to be. She will either: get bored, change her mind, see the age difference then think what am I doing. She might want out even before your H does. This A is a disaster waiting to happen. I know it is hard but hang in there. Detach... Be like MC smiling and waving....
emtnrllrcstr, u just made my day. the only problem is that i believe that my husband has turned that shallow and she will probley have to be the one to end it. i am trying everyday to hang in there but you just made my day. thank u thank u thank u
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
i need advice. my h and i went out to lunch w my 5yr old to congradulate him on graduating k5. well after lunch i texted him and told him that i needed him to give me a few days away from him no calling, texting, or coming over. i actually feel sick to my stomach bc i have lost all respect for him. then he asked if he could come get the tv. i told him no not tonight it wont be a good idea and he blew up. he got somad and said he was on his way over bc he was going to get it& the camera. i called 911 and the cop gave him a trespass notice. he told him that if he came onto the property then he would be arrested. at first my h thought it was a joke. then he realized it wasn't and left. then my h called me. i wouldn't answer so he left a voice mail message saying that he would never forgive me for this and that he never wants to see me again. he said that he is never coming out to the house again and that he will set up arrangements for a third party for visitations with the boys so he wont have to pick them up or drop them off here.someone please tell me that he is angry and doesn't mean this. at the same time i cant believe that all of this transpired bc i wanted a few days wo him in my life. i have things that i am dealing with to. what gets me is he wants me to be ok with him walking out on me and the boys and moving in w/ow and we are suppose to remain best friends but yet i want a few days no contact and ww3 breaks out. can someone please explain to me what is going on in my h's head?
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
i need advice. my h and i went out to lunch w my 5yr old to congradulate him on graduating k5. well after lunch i texted him and told him that i needed him to give me a few days away from him no calling, texting, or coming over. i actually feel sick to my stomach bc i have lost all respect for him. then he asked if he could come get the tv. i told him no not tonight it wont be a good idea and he blew up. he got somad and said he was on his way over bc he was going to get it& the camera. i called 911 and the cop gave him a trespass notice. he told him that if he came onto the property then he would be arrested. at first my h thought it was a joke. then he realized it wasn't and left. then my h called me. i wouldn't answer so he left a voice mail message saying that he would never forgive me for this and that he never wants to see me again. he said that he is never coming out to the house again and that he will set up arrangements for a third party for visitations with the boys so he wont have to pick them up or drop them off here.someone please tell me that he is angry and doesn't mean this. at the same time i cant believe that all of this transpired bc i wanted a few days wo him in my life. i have things that i am dealing with to. what gets me is he wants me to be ok with him walking out on me and the boys and moving in w/ow and we are suppose to remain best friends but yet i want a few days no contact and ww3 breaks out. can someone please explain to me what is going on in my h's head?
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
Here is my attempt at explaining what is going on in your H head. He's nutz, in a fog, selfish, self centered, immorral, possibly possesed..... Yes, he is pissed - oh well. You wanted a few days with him not contacting you right? I think that you got it. Try not to dwell to much on what just happened, enjoy the time away that YOU requested.
Remember this A will not last.. I know that is hard for you to see where you are currently at, but, it will not last.
thanks emtn i needed to hear that. i keep trying to remember that the A will not last. ist just that when things like this happens, i know that it just pushes him away from me and closer to her and that hurts.
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
Before I got married I dated a 19 yo. (I was 27). It was fun and games for a while but all she wanted to do was party. Her music sucked. You can only party for so long. I left her for someone more mature that thought about the future not just ‘where the party this weekend” IT Does get old.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
emc and husband thank you so much for your advice and i really needed to hear what you said. now how do i get over everything he has done. how can i look at my h wo feeling sick. it is getting so bad that i feel sick just thinking about him. and this is not good. i know that he is not the man that i married anymore but he is still the father of my children. how do i get over this. its not helping that all i can think about is the police coming over here and how mad he was. he is so selfish and wrapped up in hisself that he truely believes that everything is my fault. how am i suppose to hold out hope for my marriage if my h ends up hating me and i get sick just thinking about him?
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
i am just going nuts with my h wanting our m to be over but still wants us to be best friends. 