My Marriage still feels hopeless

[RedHeadWife]

ERC, you have nothing to be ashamed of about not dating before W, etc. I think all of us are in the same boat as far as thinking about dating again or anything along those lines. When it comes to having to be independent and self-confident all of a sudden when our hearts are breaking, it's not so easy. The whole GAL thing definitely makes all sorts of sense, but it's not the easiest thing in the world.

I'm at the point right now where all I want is to be able to say "you cheated on me 3 times, F off" but I can't even seem to do that. Is it just because I'm scared to be by myself. Am I really doing it all for the right reasons or am I just a wimp all of a sudden? What happened to the feisty redhead I was before I met him & married him and actually told him when we were dating that he better not be f'ing w/ me and he sure knew he better not be.

Not making this all about me, but we all kind of feel the same way. It's scary and now we're in this position of having to make the right decision and for the right reasons.

In the long run, no matter what the end result is, I think we that are here and trying to do the right thing for the right reasons are going to be the winners. We have our priorities straight and know what's right. I like to think that God will work it all out for better or worse, huh?