HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[StrongEnough]

Hello Lisa.

Geez........I am sorry that he is acting this way toward you.

First, I want to address the "I don't have to support you until we are D'ed". Now, I won't pretend to know the laws in your state. What I will recommend is that you get some kind of seperation agreement in place through the courts. This way it spells out the child support he has to pay now and when he can expect to see the kids. It takes the guess work out of it. It's one less thing he can last out at you for. The money thing....to me (because my X does this) it's a control thing. Right now his money is the only control he has over you.

The nasty things he is saying to you and calling you....don't agree. You aren't lower then a dog, you aren't a bad mother, etc.

Lisa, hun, I hate to say it....but if this is how he is treating you.....don't answer the phone. Don't let him treat you this way. Put your foot down, set your boundaries.....if you have to then say to him as calmly as possible "B...I will not let you speak to me this way. When you can calm down and talk to me with the respect I deserve we can discuss (his issue) then." If he keeps calling....keep letting it ring. I'm sorry if this is Anti-DB advice...but geez.....who should have to go through this without being able to say "No more..I won't be treated this way".

~SE