EmtnRllrCstr ,mcojh, SuperDad, sol1696 and everyone else hat has help me. There has to be a fin line between detaching and abandon. I know the thought is for my W to see that I can have a life and to let her have a preview of life without me. But it is so hard to plan my life with thinking of her in it. Now I can and will live on If a D did happen but this detach thing is like going on a diet during thanksgiving. Ya see the food but you can’t have any.
I have been doing well. I am hopping to see a little progress this weekend. I don’t need to eat the whole turkey. Just a little gravy would be nice. I want / need to see some movement. I know have heard it takes time. And looking at other people’s sitch I can see clearly what I would do. But I can’t seem to follow my own advice. Maybe I need to start a new thread with a different name. I’ll write in it and then the next day come back and read it and e I can give myself advice LOL.
The hurt has subsided. I don’t (but am tempted) look at the phone log. In a way because she does not call him in front of me I now don’t know when and how long they were talking I don’t think of it as much.


Thank you everyone for putting up with me.

H

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know