That's EXACTLY what happened in my case, it was like a lightbulb went on in H's head.
We were down to the wire and it was imminent we were heading for, at the very least, separation when I said "regardless of what happens to us, will you still be my friend". It almost rendered him speechless and he has brought that comment up so many times since. He said, when he really started to think about what I said, it started to turn things around for him because he started to look at me in a different light. I wasn't just the "wife", I was MUCH more than that, I was his "friend" and he started to think about all the things he had done, how he had hurt me etc. and thought to himself "I wouldn't do that to a friend, why did I do it to her". It worked wonders and we are still together
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
