I'd also like to add from my persective on #6. It's definately an unconditional love kinda thing. It'll break your heart to hear how they "really" feel, but it's very important for them to be able to tell us how they "really" feel, to vent. Frank is right on about creating a R of trust, that you'll always be friends no matter what, and that you're grounded enough to hear her honesty. Basically, treat your W like you would any other casual friend. Sounds impossible, but it's not, and it's very important. Over time it'll build friendship and trust, the foundation of any good R, and it'll give your WAS a lot to consider in making her decision to stay or leave.
God Bless,
COG
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