You need to stop worrying about your H and OW (easier said than done). Start working on you and taking care of your kids. Get a Lawyer for YOU and only YOU. Sounds like your H just wants things as rosey as possible to make it the easist D on him. You need to protect yourself first! He needs to come out of this fog and at the speed they have moved it should not take that long. Once they are together and the sneakiness and forbidden times are no longer so enticing - they will come to see they are just another textbook A like the rest of them. You cannot control this timeline.
Search on detachment on these boards - there are some great paragraphs on it (look up Grasshopper) and print them are read them when you feel you are losing it...
Keep up the little contact with H as possible. Keep posting here we are here to help. Foremost protect yourself and your kids!
Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10 8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth 2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home First Thread Surviving Separation Now Piecing
