Starting to really piece it back together

[Heartbroken]

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So so sorry.....you sure have it rough. My H did not live with the OW - he just set up an apt to have her over for sleepovers...ouch.

I would not file or press for D, I would put alerts on all bank accounts since filing is what is needed to protect your half of the assets.

Start true detachment - you do not want him back unless he WANTS YOU TOO!!! Hard to take but true...

I say go dark on him big time - you really cannot 'just be friends in this sitch'. What is the kid arrangement? Sounds like they will be with OW if they are with him. Is he willing to give them up? WOW - not sure what to tell you.

They do need there time together to really find out they are not meant to be - her immaturity will get to him a lot sooner the more they are together. Does she deal well with your kids now? I will go read your sitch - may not happen until this weekend...

Hang in there and don't believe everything he tells you - my H's OW said they were soulmates too. My H is still having some issues but he's off to a C next Wed. (he doesn't want to share with me b/c he said it may freak me out, WTH?) Guess I am in for another roller coaster ride too!!!