You would have to ask MrsNOP what her honest perception is.
With my youth being what it was, my emotional makeup is honestly, pretty far outside the norm.
I technically understand relationships now since I have spent considerable time studying the underlying dynamics. I started that in earnest back in 1999.
I learned to be a good father because I had a good set of rules that I developed after I had decided to change my life, not necessarily because of my upbringing.
I stopped playing and cheating by decision when I asked MrsNOP to marry me. Up until then, I had few redeeming qualities. I was dynamic and charming and had a ton of charisma, but at my core, there was a lack of substance.
So what I am trying to say by grazing over some loosely defined facts is that were I to fill out an "emotional needs questionnaire", I could honestly answer "not applicable" to most of them. It isn't that I don't have emotional needs or value my wife, or even understand them, I do, I am just not as affected by most of them.
MrsNOP and I both have some serious FOO issues, issues which we both decided early on would not affect us as a couple or as parents. For the most part, we have managed to accomplish that.
Quite frankly, If I told you of my childhood, your jaw would drop in disbelief. I have been encouraged by those who know me to write a book about it. I may do that when I am older.
That probably doesn't make a lot of sense, but without writing a book, it's about the best answer I can give you.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
