Your right, she is still trying to distance. There is a fight going on inside her right now. There is a guy that is already making her feel desired, beautiful and amazing, and now you are mucking about in her plans, the plan where she had given up on the marriage.
So, she is pissed, upset, elated, wanting to believe you but not sure she can trust you. Add a bowl full of confusion and an infatuation with another man, stir it all up, and you have a definition for how she feels.
What makes it fun for you is that she is running everything through that filter.
She knows that the right thing to do is to stay, but the infatuation is driving her to make room for the new relationship instead of fixing the old.
So, there you are, all stuck in the middle.
Your mission is simple. Make the infatuation less important than the rest of it, and you will have pulled your feet from the fire. At that point, you can work on the marriage in earnest.
Be on your best behavior, day and night. Keep your "jacket" on at all times.
If the pendulum seems to be swinging toward the other man. Let me know and we can talk about that. I won't discuss or defend this here, but I will tell you that regardless of what you may have read, you can bust an active affair, and you don't have to wait until it burns itself out, but we can deal with that if it becomes necessary.
I am glad that you have stepped up to be the hero.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
