That being said; My greatest "emotional need" is sex - connected sex. It is basically my only need from my wife, I can get by without much else. That makes me a bit odd, but it does fit with my sex drive being what it is.
I read this the other day and it bugged me enough that I feel compelled to be the second person to disagree with NOP today (although I do disagree with the not knowing Joseph was clearly beautiful issue too - lol).
NOP,
The problem with saying that "connected sex" is basically the "only" thing you need from your spouse is that you are neglecting the vast realm of prerequisites that make your spouse a person with whom you want to have "connected sex". So while it may be true that you (and I) value sexual connection over things like quality time or acts of service or gifts, it is not the case that we value sexual connection over whatever unique constellation of attributes makes a person sexually attractive to us. So I would say that you "need" MrsNOP's intelligence, beauty and strength of will MORE than you need sexual connection with her. From my current perspective, it is clear to me that a good part of the reason that I have never been LD in a relationship is that I refuse to take step one towards forming a relationship with any man who does not meet these prerequisites.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
