Well, and I think that the stereotype also -- all men want is sex. The fact that men don't necessarily TELL us that they asociated sex w/ being respected, loved, etc. doesn't help that.

I now understand . . . . and have done something about that.

It's not necessarily the kinky sex, etc., it's the connection and the motivation from us to want to please them and the intimacy that comes along with it.

Most of all, kind of like LFL and what she wants, they want to be desired -- not always the one to initiate. They want to be wanted.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10