I think I understand where you are coming from in your question...do we "think" all our H's want is sex??? (well mine, now because he has his own medical issues there)...
But from talking to my H (because we had a dynamic sex life prior to his leaving) I have found that it isn't really THE sex...it is the feeling of being respected and loved...it is a feeling that some men might associate with a sexually active wife...for others it can be totally different...
I notice that zuzu's posts are based 99% on the sex life of her and H...I can't comment on whether this is going to be healthy in the long run...most important is that they are approaching the things that are causing the problems...his past issues and her present ones...
