I’m back in the States for a week now, and have a question. W has been oddly nicer of late, pointing out things that I might like, bringing me tea, making friendly conversation, etc. I am not sure why this is – perhaps she saw my previous post here (I left my pc running while gone once, with the DB window still alive but minimized) or maybe she is feeling guilty about OM (she has been missing for a solid hour a few times now, always in the late afternoon, but I have not challenged her on it, even though I once had to turn the heat on the onions she left frying off or we would have had charcoal or a fire instead of dinner) or maybe she wants to honestly work on our marriage. The signals are, as usual, mixed, with her mysterious absences (negative) and her being nice to me (positive).
Do you think it is worth asking her if she wants to work on our M? The intention is twofold – to get an answer to the question and to decide the next step. If she says no, then I think the next stage would be a face to face and tell her I saw a divorce lawyer. I wouldn’t say that a D was definitely coming, but that getting a D was on my mind. Perhaps the shock of this will be therapeutic and hopefully a discussion will start. (If she wants to work on our M, then I would ask her how, and let her call the shots as she is the tough nut here).
What do you think about asking this question by email? Doing so might have the advantage of less passion? Sort of a on neutral cyber gound, as it were?
Ran around Walden Pond in the early morning yesterday, with a few, older fishermen out, a lone swimmer in a wet suit, fresh green trees rimming the water, a hazy red sun coming up in the east –
Now on a plane to Denver and Orange County and work –
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
