I AM CRAZY - Still in Love with ex-Wife

[RMG77739]

RMG,

Are you in love with your wife or a dream of what should have or could have been. It's so hard to separate, even several years after D, what it is your heart desires. I thought I wanted my ex-W back to, but looking back now, I can't even see why I did.

So cultivate these relationships. Give them a chance. Your wife wasn't "all that and a bag of chips", no one is. Sometimes it's easier to look at your ex-spouse with the rose colored glasses off when you have someone that treats you right for comparison. You don't have to jump in to a relationship, but dating is the way you find out if there is someone else for you. Ms. Houston sounds interesting because of the intangibles.

Me

Just_Me,

I think it is the dream of what could/should have been more than anything. When I married her, I INCORRECTLY thought I could trust her with all of me. I thought she would be the last woman on this planet to just get up and leave without a fight AND counseling. She was very selfish. I helped her get through school; while she was barely making enough to survive, we were blowing my money on clothes, trips to FL and of course she got a new car first. It jus pi$$es me off she had no loyalty.

Here is the joke of the century. She said she interviews horribly (which she does). Yet, she believes she could actually make more money than she does at her government job. People in the private sector with CPAs (which she does not have) are making 2/3 of what she makes and working 50-60 hours per week not a cushy 40 hours per week. She is delusional.

RMG

Just_Me,

Sorry about that. I was not trying to be a downer. I had to vent a bit. It was really difficult to get her to understand the concept that many salaried professionals in the private sector must work overtime. Since she has never worked a salaried job outside the government, I think she did not understand what it is like to work in a job which has more than its fair share of pressure.

RMG