Working on building trust

[butterflymom]

My last thread locked! My first ever. I feel so proud. LOL! Moved a bunch of stuff out of H's apartment at lunch today. Loaded up my car and his with nonperishable groceries, kitchen pots and pans, etc. OW is staying away (thank goodness!). Is moving the rest of her stuff out Sat. morning while we are at a soccer tournament for D8. After that we should be DONE with her. YEAH! H and I had a good talk last night. I requested that he just tell me if he wants to leave again and go back to OW. I told him that the lying and sneaking around were much worse than the just knowing. He said he was never going to back to her so I didn't have to worry about it. I told him to not sneak around with anyone else then. Just tell me and go. That I could handle that a lot better that way. He assured me he was home to stay, but did say that he wouldn't sneak around on me anymore. He's working really hard to rebuild trust. I already feel so much better this time than I did after OW#1. I NEVER felt comfortable that he was telling me the whole truth after her. Obviously I had good reason since he jumped into bed less than a month later with OW#2. I'm still very cautious, but I do notice a difference in him this time. He's sincere. He's himself. He's not that alien that I lived with for so many months. I'm not walking on eggshells. I was so afraid of that before he said he wanted to come back. I was so afraid that if he did come back we would all be walking around watching everything we said. We're not and it's nice. I'll keep you updated on us as we enter this new phase.

BFM