Lil, for a typical kid I'd say that's true, but he is sooo emotionally aware, it's good to see him protecting himself a bit. I've been trying to deny it, but he's a type 4.
I have one child, who, like your H, is a classice type 5 and it's impossible to get her to come forward spontaneously with her feelings, although she feels a lot. I've learned a trick, though...I can get stuff out of her while driving in the car!
Interesting. Does she prefer not looking at you while she's talking? I know cac doesn't like to do this. Maybe she feels more comfortable in the car because you can't look directly at her and she doesn't have to look at you.
I'll have to remember this because S4 is showing signs of being the "scientist" type AND an HSP. It'll be interesting to see his personality emerge over the next few years. I usually ask him about school and such while we're driving home from school, so I'll keep it up. Thanks for the tip!
he is sooo emotionally aware, it's good to see him protecting himself a bit. I've been trying to deny it, but he's a type 4.
He needs to protect himself when he's out in the world, but he also needs to know that he can be himself inside his family circle with the people he trusts. I know how hard it's been for me as a female to be a 4, so it's got to be a lot harder for a boy/man. Even so, he can't deny who he is, he has to learn to "be" in the world while still being true to himself, and loving himself for who he is.
I understand what you're saying though. S4 is very cautious and definitely not rough and tumble like many boys. Just recently at the playground he was afraid to try something and he called out "Mama!" in a scared voice. An older boy who was waiting behind him said he was a scaredy cat. I told the boy that wasn't nice because S4 is just a little kid, but still. I worry about him getting his azz kicked on the playground. I didn't have to worry about that as a female.
Does she prefer not looking at you while she's talking? I know cac doesn't like to do this. Maybe she feels more comfortable in the car because you can't look directly at her and she doesn't have to look at you.
Yes, you are right. She doesn't have to look at me, and it makes it easier for her. I know I can overwhelm her with my emotion. She likes sitting in the front with me, now that she's big enough, but it's probably because she then gets control of the radio. Unless, of course, she brings her ipod and tunes me out altogether!
S4 is very cautious and definitely not rough and tumble like many boys. I worry about him getting his azz kicked on the playground.
Yeah, I was always worried about bullying. When my son started K a boy would take his markers and crayons and things. He'd come home complaining but never did anything about it. H and I met his parents at a B-day party...my H got all psyched up for a confrontation with the father, but it turns out, they were the nicest people. My son and their son then became friends.
Now, my son must have learned a thing or two at school because in second grade, we had that same boy over for a playdate, and my son pushes him and says, " That was for K." And they went on from there, lol. They're now in middle school.
Lil, You are a doll! Thanks for the support...I haven't felt like connecting much to the real world, but that's kind of my baseline,lol. Now I have an excuse.
My brother put his cell phone to my dad's ear and he recognized me. And he knows I am coming down.
I am down here in Florida, and I know I will get through this, but Lil, I have to tell you, I had the imagery of going down Niagara Falls, but it's more like being engulfed in a tidal wave.
I am so glad I made the journey down here. My dad is definitely not ready to give up, and that's cool to see.
So everyone, whatever your sitch is, hang in there...embrace the emotion, purpose and faith in your lives.
