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Hi jersting. Quoting you in bold:

I am having a bad day.

Sorry to see that. You know, though, as you say, that they happen AND, more importantly that they end.

I cannot seem to get my mind off of her. I miss my wife and I wish that this would have not happend to our family.

I know. I hear that one loud and clear. The sense of loss is the hardest one for me too. Time helps, and so do distractions, but I can tell you that exactly what you write is where I get stuck most often. If you figure it out, let me know? My suspicion is that you just have to let these feelings be, and that they go away with time and distance.

I am living in the basement of the house and I avoid all contact with her because it is too hard to see her.

I did the same thing. All I can tell you is that I withdrew, rather than detached. That's what you did too. Do I understand? Of course. It's easier to put yourself in a position of never having to feel than it is to face up to having to feel something.

I did have a great day monday with the kids after school. We went fishing and just hung around together and they seemed to realy enjoy it also.

This is great. I'm glad you have some kind of positive outlet to focus on. Hopefully you can keep doing this, and frame it as looking forward to it with happiness rather than regret at the times you're not with them.

Take care and sorry to see your recent turn(s) of events.