Still sitting on this one. Not sure where to go. Chuck's advice is sound, she seems to be really struggling with all of this.
I don't know what to do. I'm really tired, I've been sleeping yet still wake up feeling like I was never in bed, haven't been eating real well, just no appetite right now. I just got back from a workout, so I'm keeping that on track.
I think the main thing I'm wrestling with here is not wanting to appear manipulative or controlling. I'm not sure if my motivation is totally LRT'ish as in, here ya' go, I'm releasing everything to you, you want out, so I'm getting out of your way.
I think the reason I don't feel genuine is that part of me is hoping this will scare her into trying. That she will see, this is going to be devastating on so many levels.
Is it really okay for me to have that motive in my head at whatever % it might be in my decision to do this?
I really wish my motivation were completely 100% to say, here you go, I'm letting you go, maybe you ask me to stay, maybe you are happy to see me go, either way it's yours to make.
