MC, I agree with Sol. I am in exactly the same boat: W and I don't fight. Since I started LRT in March, she is very relaxed around me, we do stuff as a family, and W&I have even been out together just the 2 of us. However, she still is unwilling to even discuss trying to repair our M.
All I can say is that it took years to get where we are, so it is not reasonable to expect a quick resolution. Someone once told me that a positive outcome will take on average 1 month per year of marriage (that's 15 months for me). Of course, a shorter resolution often means that the M ends in D, so I count my blessings that I still have a chance!
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Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread