Afterall..... This IS my life IV for heatherg

[RedHeadWife]

I think a lot of it is not only dealing w/ issues, but helping Heather (and some of the rest of us) to learn HOW to (as GEL put it):

BE YOU, BE THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE, BE THE WOMAN YOU ARE and be genuine to yourself.

I'm struggling w/ this too. Not to speak for Heather, and not to interupt her thread, but hopefully this is where she is too, I struggle daily because our H and our children is our life. Yes, we may work full-time, but how do you GAL w/ children, work, etc.? How do we learn to "let go" and if they decide to leave, we're ok?

I've told myself in my sitch, and in Heather's it's the porn issue, if he cheats again he's gone. Would I really be able to do that? I say to myself if he is still talking to OW and doesn't see how good he really has it WITH ME, that's his loss and I don't want him anyway. But do I really believe that?

I think Heather wants to be able to get to this point. Where she is strong enough in herself to stand up to him and if he chooses to walk she'll be ok, but how do we get to that point????