I think that you are in a tough situation, dealing with a person with an addictive personality.
I think that step one is realizing that a part of the process may have to include some ultimatums. I am thinking that "taking back the bed" is one of them.
If you can do that one thing, and still survive the onslaught that is sure to occur, then maybe you can move forward.
The only solid advice I can give you considering your husband's actions are for you to be proactive, not reactive. Stake out the things you want, and don't react to the tantrums.
That is hard to do, even for most males. In reality, though, parents do it with their children all the time.
Please let me know what you think.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
