I agree with MC.. I want to do the same thing - control the situation and MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN. Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. You can't control your wife. But, you CAN control how you react and act toward her. Maybe try to ask her questions about her day. Pretend that you are friends. What would you do/say? How would you act? Would you take things personally like you are now?
You cant' force anything.. Let it run it's course and act in ways that will make you proud later. Make sense?
