Thanks again for you input. So far all is going well.
- The sex/intimacy thing is going well. She is initiating and I am not pressuring her too much. Progress is being made. Our 1/week scheduled Intimacy get-togethers were extremely stressful on me. She would start an argument either before or after the said events. These are over with...
- One of my break-up comments to her was: “Listen XXX, I appreciate your willingness to do this but I do not think you are doing this whole-heartily but simply as a way to calm the beast (me).” “This feels like charity sex even though you are enjoying it as am I”. “I am tired of it and will not put up with it any longer!” Needless to say, she understood where I was coming from and apologized for her behavior.
- My financial boundaries have been set and she has adjusted without complaining. When she brought up the raise, I told her how is was going to be, then I went through my speech again. I told her that I have my responsibilities and she has hers and if she has a problem then she needs to make a decision and leave. I did this with respect but with firmness. I am paying for a few things for the kids but not like before. I am not paying anything for her at his point.
- I feel so much better for my boundaries I have set and I think she knows that I do not stress anymore over whether or not she stays or goes. I can take her or leave her! I will have a great life with her or without her. If we split, I know for certain that other women find me attractive and I can he very happy by myself!!
I am comfortable waiting this month to see what happens. Yes, she is walking on egg shells compared to the past eight months. I do relaize that I was taken advantage of. I have grown a new set of you-know-what!
