First, Choc, I know I said some blunt things to you and I'm sorry if I was out of line. I'm still really a newcomer here, and I'm often not sure what to say to people. I admit that my harsh words to you were in part due to my frustration with my own sitch.
Having said that, I'm concerned about the keylogger. I hope your W never finds out about it. I understand the need to protect and check on her online activities. But honestly I found it a little creepy to read that you were reading her emails to you that she hadn't even sent yet.
Don't get me wrong, I COMPLETELY understand how you feel about having a window into her soul. That is a bit what it was like for me as a lurker reading cac's posts here. But this is a public forum. I know he would have been extremely upset if he found out that I was reading his emails via a keylogger. I would be if the shoe were on the other foot. Then again, I wasn't in your sitch with a probable cheating spouse.
I guess all I'm trying to say is to be VERY careful with the keylogger. I'd hate to see it cause damage to the progress you are making.
Also, FWIW, I agree with the posters advising you to take it slow with Mrs. Choc. It's got to be extremely overwhelming to her after years of indifference. Protect yourself, certainly, but don't completely overwhelm her either. I know, it's difficult to find that balance. I also understand your need to get right to work and FIX things. I have felt the same way. Patience, grasshopper. Now, if I can only follow my own advice...
