Needed: A Big Dose of Reality

[ourcrisis]

I do not think you are oversensitive. I think h at this time think it is good enough that he is not filing and is "back". I also feel like I am doing all the work and getting nothing in return. The reason is (I am telling myself also) we think now it's h's turn to be nice when in reality, we will have to do the work and expect nothing in return. It sucks but that's the way it is. It is great already that h is calling once a day. Praise him on that (remember dog training). I am pushing my h to do things. He is doing it but I can tell he does not like it. I need to let go, and detach. If he does any little things, praise him BIG TIME. I do know that works for me except sometimes it seems so fake, ha ha. But it works because my h would follow with more good actions.