How do I know if it is MLC

[bright 2 morro]

I can understand and appreciate the comments you made. I guess from my perspective. It seems when I talk to him that it is over over. Then I think about the past 18-24 months and think why do I want to put up with that again. He backed off on a lot and I took over a lot. Then when we had fights he was always right.

I guess when I look back over this time I realize that it was not all that happy. I am afraid to hold out and have it happen all over again in the future. Then I think do I not deserve better than him.

I am not even convinced now that he is going through a Mid Life Crisis. I was at first but now he is slowly starting to talk to his parents and trying to be closer to the kids. He is even trying to be nice to me. Telling me he still cares about me but he is not in love with me anymore. He only set out to get space not find someone else. That just happened.

Then I read the posts hear and stories in books and more often than not they end up marrying the ow and then what I have wasted more of my life holding out for him. He was never like this. Just only over the last few years it got worse and worse.

But what if this is not a MLC but just that he realized we were over? Or if that was the case would he be willing to go to counciling. How do I know he will come back if he will not even tell me why he left in the first place. He just says that he is not going to get into it with me every time I ask him.

After everything he has done (especially the moving in with her)I am not sure that I can live with that. These actions are the worst thing someone can do to deceive someone else. Is it even a forgivable act.

I guess I just feel done with dealing with it. I am tired of him yelling at me when he does not like something I do or say. I am tired of him calling me a b---- and the threats for an all out war, and the hanging up on me. I am so tired of feeling like I am nothing and that our marriage was nothing.

mimi