Letting go and going with the flow

[princess_nic]

Welcome back, Brava! I'm glad you had a good trip.

the one deal breaker is that I just can't or don't want to handle "sharing him" anymore with all his female friends, messed up guy freinds etc.. It was a pattern that developed in our marriage already and it is his way of not risking and puttin his energy into a committed relationship. I know that NOW of all times I should be ok with it but I am not.

This is an interesting insight. I also had to deal with this during my M. People (even H's friends and family) would ask me why I "let" him go out so much, and I always answered that he's a grown man - I can't force him to stay home; he has to choose to do that. Unfortunately, he didn't.

I don't think you DO have to be okay with it; I won't be next time around. I think it is very telling when someone acts like that. I had never thought of it in the terms you mentioned above, but it is an interesting way to look at it. It's also part of just not wanting to grow up and take on responsibilities.

I hope your jetlag lets up soon!

Nicola