I just wanted to tell you what great advice you are giving everyone. I hope your week end was fun and you are doing a great job. You r wife will have to wake up one of these days and see what a great guy you are. Keep GAl your are making great progress.
Matilda and Penny, The picnic with my W and MIL went very well. My MIL was concerned that I did not go on the last outing with my W and her. My presence was requested and appreciated.
The dance party was OK. I got to meet and dance with two new ladies. I'm always looking to expand my network. I'm still working my way up to dancing with the better lady dancers. I have to be patient, and enjoy where I'm at skillwise. It's too easy to compare yourself with others.
My dance lessons at the studio continue to go well. I always leave with feedback on how to improve something. It's money and time well spent. It's also nice to practice with the same people.
My W invited me to one of her dance lessons, as her competition partner has been unreliable lately. I declined, as I know her expectations would be too high for me to meet. Our temperaments and learning styles are different. She's a quick study, and I learn incrementally. She said, "we're getting along so well these days. Doing lessons together would likely have me being upset with you."
I'll be in Boston for my neice's religious ceremony. I'm travelling solo. I think it's a good decision, due to the state of our M. I don't think our M, or my W is in a position of enough strength to manage a family gathering. She seems OK with the decision, though for different reasons
My W has slept elsewhere 5X this month (10X in April).
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
Jak, Matilda, Yoyo, and Penny, My trip to Boston was wonderful. It was great to be present for my sister for my neice's coming-of-age religious ceremony. My BIL's father died the week before, so it was also an opportunity to offer my condolences in-person.
My W has scheduled a two-week cruise for herself. I hope this allows her mind to settle, so that she can come back and face her problems. I don't know if she's going solo or with a friend. I won't ask.
She is like a "frog in hot water." She seems paralyzed by the stressors in her life.
She worked on the house while I was in Boston. She tore-up the carpet in her office, to expose the hardwood floor. It looks much nicer. She also took down the dark red drapes, and plans on replacing them with a brighter color.
I visited my IC this week. He believes that my W's behavior is not a reflection on me, but more reveals her issues. It helps to hear that, to validate my perspective.
I passed the Salsa 3 class, and have been promoted to Salsa 4.
My W and I have been invited to a family vacation in NC in late June. My W will be on her cruise at that time. I'll have to think about how to manage that situation.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
CL, Glad you has a nice visit with your family. Wow, before I know you'll be one of those professional dancers ond Dancing with the Stars.
I say go on the trip without wife, don't let her think you are going to mope around whild she is on her cruise. Maybe you need to take a cruise of your own and show off those dancing skills. You would be the most popular man on the ship!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
