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[Heywyre]

I have read some interesting research on multiple M's and it seems like people either never fix their own problems and continue to D many more times, or they fix their own stuff and find a happy 2nd M, or they are so petrified of having yet another failed M that they stay in an unhappy M

This is hardly the case. The first M ended due to my H, not me. He just said one day, after 17 years of marriage, "I want a divorce" and there was no discussion, no counselling (except once - but that was a sign of weakness in his eyes) and no compromising.

This R was totally the opposite of my first M. My H is very supportive of everything I do, I come first in his life (believe it or not) and he constantly brags about me to others - its almost embarassing at times. He is a very loving and compassionate man, just a few of the very many qualities he possesses

Yes, he had 2 As - but he/we are dealing with a whole other aspect of betrayal (Madonna/Whore complex - see my thread) and it has absolutely nothing to do with me or the problems in our marriage. Other than that one issue, we are unbelieveably compatible (C's words not mine). So, no it is not because I am more willing to put up with it than be alone. I don't fear being alone, I did quite well as a single mother when I got divorced the first time and I am very well established career wise and financially, even more so, to do it now but I chose not to.