The irony is, I do think I am a fairly honest person. I say what I think on this board and tell it like it is. I have been honest with my H for the vast majority of our M, to the point that I created great pain in this wonderful "honesty".
Yeah, my W prides herself on telling it like it is, at least her version of honesty and the truth. In the past, she would never hesitate to point out these “truths,” to confront someone about being honest. But for what purpose? To defend some high moral order? Nope, to exert and maintain control. Its easy to defend, because she and you are just being honest, right? But to those on the receiving end of this honesty campaign, it sure feels like a power play of some sort.
My W has learned to hold her tongue a little more now, which helps a lot. But underneath this need to be honest is still a lot of fear, insecurity, anger and resentment, KWIM? Its ironic that honesty can become passive aggression.
