Why should I wait (while taking care of myself) for that long? Do I not have a right to be with someone that makes me happy?
I am standing for my M. While this is a very personal choice, in my case it is not based in religion. I have two D's 14 and 12 and from my perspective I have nothing more important to do for the next 6 years than to raise them. This does not (in my case) include dating. So if this is what I'm doing how can it hurt (and it might even help) to work on a good R with their Dad? Remember the trick here is to be the best you for you (ok, not really a trick) this may help bring you M back together it may not. Do I deserve to be loved and happy? YES. I am well aware that any R (as in the romantic kind) will cut into their time with me and I will not make them pay an additional cost.
I guess a question I would ask is: Is a few months the best you can do for the person you couldn't live without? Granted he's an alien right now. Perhaps it would help to see him as mentally ill (isn't he?), or even if he were physically ill what would you be willing to do then? I know it's not the same and I am not judging you. I play my cards on the table and I know I'm a good friend (in the truest sense of the word), that includes being a bb buddy. If it becomes necessary to protect yourself financially do so. I'm assuming (yes, I know) he isn't violent or abusive, b/c that is a differnt can of worms all together.
We all have our paths to follow and we have to decide which road to take. You will find lots of support here and hopefully some tough questions that will help you along the way.
This is something I KNOW I have to do, I can't explain it. Unfortunately in knowing, I have no idea what I will find at the end, except me. Someone to be cherished.
Just another opinion and I hope it helps some. HUGS
