I post and talk about how doing nothing is a terrible idea, not leading and not taking control of your life is terribly unattractive. Ive handed it out on the tip of a 2x4 on occasion. That being said, I completely comprehend your H, LFL and Choc. Being forced to 'top her top' is not doing him a favor, and is not attractive. There is zero appreciation and respect shown with that behavior. It would be nice to see some of the ladies in the know, point it out. If there are no ladies in the Know, that has merit too.
Try something that works, like showing some honesty that makes you vulnerable. Like asking him to post here. _____________________________________
I appreciate your points BF. The irony is, I do think I am a fairly honest person. I say what I think on this board and tell it like it is. I have been honest with my H for the vast majority of our M, to the point that I created great pain in this wonderful "honesty". Told him our SL was bad. That was honest. Told him plenty of horribly honest things. He left. Now that I am keeping my mouth shut on the sex issue and many other issues, he tells me how happy he is. So how does that help me? I am debating at this point being honest about the OM emails. Why burst his happy bubble, ya know? Maybe I should just suck it up and deal with it on my own. LFL
