I didn't mean to sound so self-righteous, Lust. I am very very flawed in my own right. But I am trying to make myself into a better man. To me, being a better man means respecting another man's troubled M when I have a relatively recent direct intimate connection with his W. ___________________________
Thanks Stig. We are all flawed in our own way. And I respect your efforts to be a better person. The thing is, it's easy to write things on this open forum and say what we would do if and when blah blah blah, but that is not always reality ya know? OM is a guy not too different than lots of the Alpha males on this board. He shared with me that his W ended up cheating on him and that was that. He must have taken the "Nop approach" because he didn't want to hear any excuses from her and proceeded to D court. So he's not totally without boundaries. I know that is why he asked me right away, "are you D?" because he was never really comfortable dating me in the first place only being S at the time. But he did date me because...well...I like to tell myself I was just too good to pass by. So enough about that. We all do things sometimes that may not be the smartest choices. I just get annoyed when people act like they are beyond reproach and well, I know different. There are plenty of men on this board who have contacted me through email (and women too of course). Is that ok? I don't think so. I don't have any way for people to contact me anymore. No email attached. For me, I need to separate this "world" from my IRL world. Otherwise, it's too easy for people to say things that become "secretive" and that takes me (at least) down a bad path. SO that base is covered. I'm thinking about telling H about the OM email. My IRL friends think this is a mistake. I'm still trying to sort it out. Just throwing it out there for now. LFL
