If you want reciprocal positive behavior, why don't you start it yourself? Rather than criticizing him when he doesn't do what you would like, REALLY SINCERELY appreciate it when he does do something you like, and share that appreciation enthusiastically.
So, rather than b*tching at him in that email, you might have said: "H, I loved your kiss this morning, it was so sensual and hot. Your energy is just amazing sometimes."
