Well, the way I'm seeing it is you need to just back way off, whether that's what you want to or not. I learned the hard way in my sitch (and you can look at Choc's right now too) that we can't always have what WE want immediately. After all, we are the ones choosing to DB and save our M's and sometimes that makes us the ones willing to take a bit more of everything than others may or may not put up with.
Don't get me wrong, not saying be a doormat whatsoever, but what about just not initiating convos like the above for awhile? No R talk for awhile. Just go along "as if" everything is wonderful and you are just so happy, happy. Initiate sex and love it. Love him, do things for him and act "as if" nothing is out of the ordinary.
I know, I know, this may kinda suck. We want THEM to put in some effort too, however, that may not happen right away. Figure out what you have been doing that has caused the arguments and tension and do a 180 on those things.
The line I love is "be the woman/wife that he would never want to leave!"
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
